Deviantart and the need for validation
Something I never had the intention to post but I had to get if off my soul. This journals is in no way associated with any people or groups by name and should not be concieved as slander. I dearly wish everyone will understand.
validation groups
„..groupings of similiar minded individuals wich do not subordinate to the collective good of the group..."
"They all retain agency and don't really act like a group. Instead, they act more as an association of individuals. You can see this in online 'movements' that amount to 'I don't like this thing and believe it should be attacked'.“
„...unwilling to acknowledge anything but themselfs as inherently correct. They must associate with people who specifically reinforce their worldviews."
"I don't think it's conformity; I think it's mutual need for validation and attention that human beings inherently have. However, when people who believe they are entirely correct about everything get together there's eventually going to be problems. There will, in due course, be in-fighting, because the foundation of the group is not based on the evolution of ideas and mutual respect; it's simply a lot of people who think they are right about everything and who happen to think the same thing.“
„The function of a 'thought leader' is specifically to validate everything around them.
They validate the narrative, thereby validating the show, network and company they are providing commentary for. They also validate themselfs, but most importantly, they validate you.
Ultimately, the group is there to validate everyone involved (…)"
"(…) These groups are not hive minds, they're shaky alliances. They aren't based in solidarity or a common cause, even if they purpose themselfs to be.“
- Custom Reality and You, Peter Coffin
In the past year I actively distanced myself from deviantart and its communities in search for regaining my happiness and enjoyment when it came to drawing. Something that I had had loved with a passion had grown sour on me. It wasn't anymore about the basic enjoyment of engaging your characters inside a storyline and building your world with art, it was about how much money you could make off this breed, how many starters you could hoard, how many watchers you could gain and how many people you could rally behind yourself. Groups of people constantly telling you who you can be in contact with and who had to be excluded due to drama you haven't even been around for. I constantly seeked validation in a group of people who showed no interest in myself but saw something to gain, to get a hold of. Who shaped an illusion in myself what their sense of community looks like and what is the new moral.
I cut ties with what I considered to be the reason why there was toxicity in my life. I made the active desicion that this is not what I wanted, not for me or anyone else.
During the last year I saw many popular rpg groups fall into the same hole of fake comradery and toxicity, resulting in a number of people who decided this hobby is not theirs any longer.
I took the time to reconnect with friends and make a new mindset for myself. At the time when I was ready to delete my account I realized that nothing mattered. I lost the importancy of a validating feeling of belonging, had nothing to gain from any sales or the validation of others. That group I considered my calling didnt matter. People that dislike me didnt matter. I didnt matter. I was once more just happy to be here, so I filled my free time with a healthy sense of just drawing what is fun to draw, for me and noone else, and I really missed it. And it didnt matter what would come out of it, I was simply happy by being able to surround myself with supportive friends, make art, and enjoy the other parts of my life inbetween. And it felt amazing.
I wrote this off of my heart with the hope it could reach someone who also feels stuck. You yourself are the only person who can grant yourself the feeling of belonging. Noone else will ever speak for a community, noone can ever speak in the behalf of a community. You yourself will have to decide where you have your place and where you want to be a part of something, and who deserves your time.
All this is digustingly broadly generalized and its defenitly a deeper topic I choose not to loose my energy to. If you disagree, thats great! Its my opinion, and you are entitled to your own.
If you ever come to the conclusion that you dont want to interact with a group of people, here is a great journal about how to deal with it in a healthy way. www.deviantart.com/astralseed/…
With best regards